why is it that the many people are very much fixated on the idea that knowing oneself is the best possible way to know others, and if you have not met anyone like that, then you are welcome to take my position and see such specimen???isn't knowing oneself only the best way of knowing just yourself, with no strings attached what so ever???i believe knowing thyself is the best way of becoming complete in your own ways. again, one should know that nobody is ever right or wrong, we should always treat every single being as separate individual different from each other and with various needs and hence with his own right and his own wrong. and if u find two persons whose rights and wrongs coincide, then one knows that one of them is lying over his head.
knowing yourself is only the first step of attaining perfection, not that anyone could ever attain perfection as human mind is the most complex of things and it's beyond any living creature to understand it completely. even the doctors who have studied the human mind and emotions are at times, most of the time, bewildered by the complexity of the human mind. so understanding human mind completely is out of question for the laymen like you and i. so why am i saying all this now, that to to an audience that i don even know exists. the explanation is simple, i have understood me to the best of my ability and i like to express what i go through, and also because none of my friends have the time or energy to listen to the crap(as many call it) coming out of my mouth.
coming back to the topic of understanding thyself, do we really understand what we are???if you think that you do understand yourself well enough, then is there any negative emotion or nefarious need involved in it???if your reply to your own question is in the negative, then my friend, you have not understood anything about you. am saying this not because am entitled to say this or because i have the authority to preach about it, but because of the simple logic that human mind does not also think positively. the first and foremost task of our mind is to protect ourselves from the malice around. that in itself is a selfish act, which in no dictionary or no book, can be described as a positive feeling. here comes the distinction between what you know about yourself and what you do about this understanding. turning green when a close friend of yours chooses somebody else over you is a natural feeling to have, anyone and everyone should have it. but it is what you do about it that matters the most. you can turn violent at the very thought and go bonkers all over the place and hurt yourself and others in the process. but that doesn't necessarily pull you out of the predicament does it. it only aggravates it as you know that you have become jealous of something or someone(as mentioned here) and the only thing you can do about it i hurt everyone. but had you taken the time to think about what happened and why the initial thing happened, you could maybe, perhaps find the root cause. and once you know what led everyone into the fix, the negative emotion in itself would vanish. thus understanding alone isn't enough to make yourself better, accepting what you understood is the single most crucial part.
there are many people who have tried to understand the meaning of their existence, but have failed. it is not because they did not try to the best of their ability or because they gave up the effort of understanding. it is because they were not ready to accept what they saw in them. how many of you can accept, without trepidation, that they could also be wrong???that itself is the single most biggest example that we do not accept what we see. if you have accepted it, we would be happier as there would be a reason for everything that happens to us. we would reach a state when we could always see a flip side to the bad things happening to us. and so can make ourself a little more happier being.
yes, the more we understand and accept ourselves, the more we understand others also. but that should not be the reason why we should understand ourselves. the reason why am saying that we can understand others better is simple. the nature of human being, as i told you earlier is to be selfish. for us to accept something in others, one should have it in him first. so if we cant understand and accept ourselves first, how can we even imagine to accept others for what they are???
understanding oneself is also a coin with two sides. because the more you understand yourself, the more you leave behind the accepted standard procedures and formalities of living. you will be pitched against the majority who aren't ready to see themselves. here is what will happen if you have accepted yourself. you will first find reasons for everything, because you no longer have to ponder into knowing what you are. the more you start thinking about the reasons, the more adept you will get in finding the right solutions(from where you stand of course), and the emotionally challenged side that you always had disappears. not saying your emotions will go,just saying that the challenge it always had disappears. hence you can control your mind and thought in a far better way. this state, from where others stand, will be interpreted as you being cold or dead inside for they have not experienced the freedom that you are experiencing. you may lose the people you love or care about, and you may even wonder how to get back to the superfluous life you once had. but you cant do anything about it as the life that you left is far beneath you and your understanding would never let you enter it again. thus we reach back to square one, where we had nothing to begin with and experienced everything possible and yet wanting to go back on everything even though you know how high you stand above others.
this continues on and on,....few people try to re-enter into what ever life they had, others just wander off to who knows where. but in spite of having nothing valuable to themselves, the ones who wander away are the most complete men and women....
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